When divorce is the only solution
Posted: Wednesday February 20 2019
By: Vanessa Fox
When divorce seems to be the only solution, taking the next steps can be bewildering and daunting. While friends and/or family will advise and support you during this tough time, we always recommend seeking professional independent advice. Everyone involved, particularly children, need to adjust to the new situation – making securing a fast and cordial agreement a priority. Collaborative law or mediation can help achieve this. In collaborative law both parties and their solicitors meet face-to-face to resolve family difficulties – remaining in control of the process and the agenda. Accountants, pension advisers and estate agents can also be involved in the sessions.
It involves signing an agreement which disqualifies your lawyers from representing either of you in court if the process breaks down. This ensures everyone’s commitment to find a non-confrontational solution. The final agreement comprises a Court Order leading to a better long-term relationship.
With mediation you and your spouse meet with a qualified mediator to try to reach an amicable settlement. The sessions are confidential and without prejudice should an agreement not be reached. Mediation can also be helpful when previous arrangements regarding children need changing as they grow up.